Twins — Why Can’t I Lump Them Together?

Recently, at my twins nursery program, their wonderful teacher pulled me aside to let me know, “They play equally well, together and apart.” Hmmm.
I responded, trying to act as if this was something I had given a lot of thought to, “That’s great?”  I am still hoping this was the right response. The truth is, I tend not to over think things. It never occurred to me to be concerned about twin separation and individuality. I have one book on twins, and the binding is yet to be broken.
I think they are so lucky to have each other — partners in crime, power in numbers, etc. What if giving them more individuality means they end up liking each other less? Selfishly, I want them to like ALL the same things and love spending time with each other. I don’t have time for two more kids’ schedules in my life. One more has a very good chance of breaking me. My hope is they follow the exact same path — get the same grades, play the same sports, choose the same friends and get full rides to the same college. Turns out though, this makes me an irresponsible mother. I am supposed to be encouraging individuality every step of the way. Oops. Too Late.
Hate to admit it, but the individuality thing actually does make some sense, so if you have twins, especially same sex twins, you may want to read more. Click here for an article written by a twin mom, (who writes a twin blog) who interviewed another twin mom (who writes twin books) and just happens to be a twin herself.  And all this time, I just thought I could go with my gut … and, I am not separating them until they force me to do so.