Finding Your G Spot

by Shannon Albarelli, Psy.D.

As a mom who works with moms; and is friends with moms; and sees moms professionally… it is clear to me that all moms (and all humans for that matter) need find…their g-spots, their place of Gratitude. I know, not as sexy as you expected, but I got your attention right? And not the kind of gratitude for the food we have access to and the grass under our feet (even thought that is important to cultivate too!), but the kind of gratitude for ourselves, and for doing the best we can day-by-day-by-day.

When is the last time you said to yourself, “You had a tough day…and you did a good job!?” For me, those words do not come naturally. I am usually assessing what I did wrong; what I may have forgotten; and how I could have been a better. I have high expectations for myself and don’t have the tendency to cut myself some slack.

But on those rare days where I have developed a sense of loving-kindness for myself, my world changes, the tension melts, and a sense of warmth fills my body. For that one moment, I can feel a sense of gratitude for doing my best. What would your world be like if you appreciated yourself and you treated yourself like you would treat your best friend? How would you feel if at every mis-step there was a voice saying “Its okay: you are doing your best. Simply keep on going”.

Would your inner world be different if you were able to forgive yourself for yelling at your kids; being cranky with a friend; or messing something up at work? Try it and let me know what you think. And while we are at it, why not encourage this in each other? You can change someone’s day by giving them a compliment. The more love you give to others, the more you feel loving inside yourself.

So, next time you see someone doing their best, tell them! It could transform your life and theirs too!

Shannon Albarelli, Psy.D., 57 Union Pl , Suite 212, Summit, NJ 07901. 973 544-8067.

See more of Shannon’s posts about how to live a balanced, joyful life! Besides writing about what’s on her mind, she available to help you talk about what is on yours. She practices is Summit and can be reached at shannon.albarelli@gmail.com or visit her website www.dralbarelli.com. Or try one of her classes at The Bar Method where she leads group meditations designed to bring peace, clarity, creativity and kindness to those who participate.

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